Read this quote:

If you tell your child something a hundred times and he still doesn’t get it, who’s the slow learner?

Read that again:

If you tell your child something a hundred times and he still doesn’t get it, who’s the slow learner?

Here’s an example: You tell your child every day that when he comes home from school he needs to hang up his coat and backpack, yet every day you need to yell at him till he finally does it.

Or you tell your daughter every morning to brush her teeth and every morning is a fight.

Who is the slow learner here?

Maybe there is another approach.

When you and your child are really calm, call him over and talk to him about it. “Chaim, I asked you many times to hang up your coat and backpack when you come home and it’s not getting done. What’s up?”

Find out what the challenge is, and help him fix it. Does he need a gentle reminder? Is the coat rack too high and he gets frustrated trying to hang up his coat? Does he simply forget? Is he so hot and tired when he comes home that he just wants to drop everything on the floor and relax?

Talk about solutions that you are both happy with.

Things will not change overnight, but if you keep having conversations when you are both calm, and you keep fine-tuning the solutions, you will come up with the right one. 

Caution: People don’t like using this approach because it takes longer. But from my experience, it’s worth the effort and time. You will get lasting results, and your child will learn some skills along the way.

What are your thoughts? 

Can you see this working?

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